As my journey in Europe slowly ends, I continue to meet with fantastic business folk. This week, I was privileged to meet with a chemical engineer, Felippe, who shared his insights about business and working in Europe. Felippe is also a French businessman; the gentleman speaks seven languages and has an encapsulating global intellect. During our conversation, Felippe’s wisdom offered considerations for exploring pathways not previously thought of and, in doing so, made very clear that in making a respectable income, there is a responsibility to grow those in one’s care, including colleagues. Interestingly, he ended our conversation with a quote: “Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose... however it happens, let’s not forget integrity and dignity.” (I hope the English translation makes sense!)
After much reflection, I thought about the Rearview Mirror Syndrome. For many clients, getting away from the past is quite a challenge. Why? Because there is a perception (right or wrong) that who we once were continues to be who we are today. Or adopting a mental state where we relive and recreate our past becomes the modus operandi. I want to be clear that this post is not related to trauma but general everyday ways of doing and relating. With fixed mindsets, low confidence and little faith, the Rearview Mirror Syndrome results in minimal efficacy in doing what we always did rather than venturing out to explore possibilities.
So, what can we do to mitigate the challenge of Rearview Mirror Syndrome?
1. Be consciously aware of your thought patterns.
2. Adopt a positive mindset in any situation.
3. Take small steps in a focus area of choice.
4. Partner with a buddy who will support you on your journey.
5. Keep a diary to note the pros and cons of any decision that needs to be made.
For me, the words of Daphne Rose Kingma ring true….
"Holding on is believing that there is only a past; letting go is knowing there is a future.”
What are your thoughts?